mengurus jiwa

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Dalam kesesakan di jalan raya kuala lumpur, petang-petang dalam pukul 6 lebih saya amat suke mendengar perbincangan 'cerna minda' di radio IKIM.fm.

Tajuk yg dibentangkan baru-baru ini saya rasa sangat bagus. Kerana ia jarang dibincangkan especially dari perspectif Islam dan ia merupakan komponen besar yang menyumbang dalam kemajuan seseorang di dunia dan seterusnya akhirat,


Kita selalu dengar tentang emotional intelligent / EQ tetapi apabila mendengar perbincangan ini saya sedar 'mengurus jiwa' itu adalah lebih besar..bukan sekadar emosi sahaja malah segalanya..

Dan terasa amat-amat berysukur kerana Islam adalah agama fitrah yang jika kita telusi sehalus-halusnya kita pasti akan ketemu dengan jawapan bagaimana untuk mengurus jiwa.

Setinggi mana pun seseorang itu dari segi jawatan atau statusnya dalam masyarakat, sekiranya pengurusan jiwa tidak baik maka semuanya akan buruk.

Apabila berbicara tentang jiwa, saya sering mengaitkannya dengan hati..dan secara fizikalnya dimanakah 'hati' menurut islam itu? sudah semestinya bukan 'liver' atau 'heart' organ dalaman kita yang penitng..tetapi ia adalah subjektif..ianya naluri atau iman..wallahualam..

ini mengingatkan saya tentant hadis tentang hati..

"ketahuilah bahawa dalam setiap jasad itu ada seketul daging, yang apabila ia baik maka baiklah seluruh jasad, dan apabila ia rosak, rosaklah seluruh jasad, ketahuilah ia adalah HATI.."

salah satu cara juga yang diketengahkan untuk mengurus jiwa adalah tidak menganggap kehidupan dan tanggungjawab di dunia ini i.e. anak-anak etc sebagai beban tetapi sebagai amanah dan cara utk kita invest demi kebahagiaan di akhirat.

Kebergantungan kepada Allah adalah point utama yang perlu ada dalam diri kita. Teringat tentang ketabahan hati seorang wanita bernama Zainab al-Ghazali yang sungguh hebat pergantungannya pada Allah sehingga segala ujian yang tak termampu dibayangkan bahkan utk mengalaminya sendiri..tetapi dengan ikatan dan 'urusan' jiwa yang baik anatara beliau dengan Allah dapat memberi ketenteraman buat dirinya,..


hanya mahu berkongsi antara isi yang diperbincangkan dalam 'cerna minda':

-selidik diri sendiri, kenal pasti masalah dan cuba selesaikan
-ilmu: carilah ilmu, jiwa yang kosong dengan ilmu terutama ilmu addin (agama) akan membentuk minda yang sempit seterusnya tingkahlaku yang tidak sempurna
-bersangka baik pada Allah dan manusia
-zikir berpanjangan kepada Allah
-bersabar dan bersyukur serta memaafkan orang lain

sesungguhnya kunci terbaik adalah kembali kepada fitrah kita iaitu Islam itu..bukan Islam sebagai kata nama tetapi 'islam' sebagai kata kerja..wallahualam..

ubat hati yang boleh diamalkan ada 5:

-baca Quran dan maknanya (tadabbur sekali)
-dirikan solat malam
-Bersama-sama dengan orang soleh
-banyakkan berpuasa
-perbanyakkan zikir especially malam hari


Semoga kita sentiasa dalam rahmat ALlah kerana hanya Dia yang berkuasa memberikan ketenangan jiwa buat kita.insyaAllah..wallahualam







new baby:)

We have started washing the 'old but seems new' baby clothes. I was excited and triggered by the cute little clothes and shoe.huhu..I'm getting clucky;)

We were so lucky to have parents from both sides and friends who bought the clothes (we end up buying only 2-3 pieces only). My Oz friend Jessica and David bought us one big basket full of newborn attires from top to toes including cute baby wrappers. Miss u Jess. Had been a long time since last meeting you guys.






Umar oso was busy 'trying' the baby's pants as in he can fit into it..heehehehe ..cute lil umar. He keep saying " dulu umar muat ni..tapi sebab umar dah besar and umar sayang adik,umar bg baby la baju-baju ni"..

he oso starts to 'distribute' his toys: "yg ni umar xnak main dah.umar dah besar..bagi baby la ummi" . The toys oso mostly are gifts from my friends and juniors in Oz. Including cute little musical potty which umar is using now. Credit to my Dandee Hospital Colleagues! We only bought 1-2 items for educational purposes.



Baby cot also was re-setup and umar said "baby biar tido dgn umar..kalau baby nangis umar panggil ummi.." huhu ..very brotherly la anak ummi ni..the baby cot was from Ikea using the voucher gifts from hubby's KMYS's friends. Thanks peeps!


Slowly I wanna wash other equipments e.g. baby mosquito net (the one like tudung saji and the hang one) the stroller, the baby carrier, the baby 'basket' and baby car seat etc. Alhamdulillah everything still in good condition, still in the shipping box from Oz.heheh

Please pray for us for everything to go smoothly and for an easy labour and cute little musleh baby!Amin..

trip to zoo melaka

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We went to my cousin wedding in JB during the awal muharram holiday.
It was a good time to meet most of the relatives and celebrating the first wedding had in JB.

May Allah bless the couples and grant them His blessing in this world and hereafter. Congratulation to Tahirah and hubbby!

On the way back, we went to Zoo Melaka as Umar had been asking for a trip to the zoo for soo many times. We had a trip to the national zoo when umar was 1years plus.



umar and the miniature horse..it will be perfect for him to ride on!;)

For this second time, umar was so excited and he learns a lot as compared to our previous trip. Even though we only spent 2 solid hours there. As usual many questions came up and many statements made by this cutiepie!


on a giant tortoise replica

While exploring, we did discussed on the great power of Allah creating all these with different colours, shape, species etc. The first and simple step to educate our child on faith is to introduce him to the world and make him think about His creations.



Umar was so amazed with his exploration and keep talking about it in the car and even calling his grandma to tell her on his trip..;)


alhamdulillah..:)

life is short..

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A few updates prepared but save in the draft..I just don't feel right to post them up since hubby just lost one of his close friends from college and univ years..

Mr Reza collapsed suddenly this morning and pronounced dead at 7am. Post mortem report identified cardiomegally. But I am not sure the real cause.

Recently we received three of the same news. All happened on our own friends or younger than us.
Deep in my heart, I feel unprepared as I don't know when is my time...And the worse thing is I feel that I am not prepared because of I have little 'amal'. Oh Allah please forgive me on my wrong doings and please allow me to do good deeds for the life after my death...

May Allah bless all of them and make their family strong..amin..

4 years of blessings~ Alhamdulillah!

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Sangat bersyukur kepada Allah atas nikmat pernikahan dan keluarga yang sangat berharga..berkati lah kami dan zuriat kami dan kurniakanlah kami kesudahan yang baik..

terima kasih buat suamiku Rizaidi Rohim atas kasih sayang, toleransi dan kebahagiaan selama ini..hanya Allah dapat membalasnya..doakan ikatan ini kekal selamanya dunia dan akhirat..
dan anak-anak kita menjadi insan-insan yang soleh dan musleh serta solehah dan muslehah yang hidup kerana Allah dan berjaya dunia dan akhirat!!


Our anniversary is a time to look back at the good times and a time to look ahead to live our dreams together.

My big handsome boy :)


Oh my, alhamdulillah..looking at these photos, I realized that my son is a big boy now. How time flies and now he almost becoming a brother to another mujahid in the family, InsyaAllah..

MasyaAllah, I am so grateful to Allah with all His sustenance, loves and the chance for me to feel the best experience of being a mother especially at this young age.

Umar likes to imitate what his ayah doing. Last few weekends, ayah washed the car and he also wanna 'wash' his motorbike (a gift from atuk Kamisan) and his bicycle.

When Umar asked me, i thought to myself why not?it will be a good experience for him besides exposing him to the 8am, morning sunlight for the Vit D!;)




not yet had his bath! he was soo focus..alhamdulillah





he did exactly what ayah was doing;) so cute!



Bravo son..may Allah bless u always dear Umar al Faruq!

parenting book

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Some one said that it is difficult to find a detail or specific book that guides parents on what to do or not to do at certain age.



I found this book is a good one

It is true that parenting books mostly talk on general points on how to educate our little one. It is based on our own creativity to plan for our each and every child.

I presume it is because every child is different and what best for A is not surely best for B. The best way is to try and error to find out what suit for them and sometimes this process takes longer than what we expected.
A young child has many needs and active; flexibility is the key important principle. Flexible but firm on what we want to achieve on specific time frame.

I myself found that it is very tight time frame to utilise the'golden' age of a child before they reach kinder age. Especially before the age of three.
Not my main intention to make them an outstanding student at school but to stimulate all their senses. Provide sufficient love and cares and prepare them to continue the learning experience in future.


Nothing could compare the happiness and satisfaction to see umar's cheerful face, the excitement of exploring together and how he uses and links what he learned in his daily life.

To be frank I certainly feels motherhood is a really precious and enjoyable experience in a person named, "mother".Undeniable that it is a huge responsibility as it is an trust given by Allah.

The enjoyable experience of motherhood really change my view on having another child after the painful experience of giving birth. Now we are looking forward for our second caliph in the more prepared and organize manner mentally and physically compared to the first as I was still studying back then. May Allah makes both our boys a pious and musleh persons. Amin

exlopring nature with family!

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I wanted to bring umar for a simple 'tracking' experience for so long but not sure where and when. Alhamdulillah last weekend, we went to visit umar's pak long in Kuantan and off we go to the waterfall. (umar call it 'waterjun' = waterfall+air terjun..hihi)
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to reach the spot nearest to the waterfall we had to do some jungle tracking. Surprisingly Umar was so eager and enjoying the tracking so much. His cute mouth never stop asking me a lot of questions. I let him touch the trees, dried leaves or anything which is safe for him to let him explore as much as he could. We even came across a very big 'ulat gonggok' as big as my big toe.
Umar was so excited, he wanna touch it and of course I did not allow him.

Above was his photo with uncle haziq. I like the uniqueness of the photo, clear background with dark figures..heh





In the afternoon, we went to Teluk Chempedak and umar was busy playing with the sand while we observed him do what ever he wanted to with the sand. We only allowed him to play with dried sand coz I did not planned to change his cloth again after the tiring 'exploration' at the 'waterjun';)




with his pak su

Natural Parenting

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Now I am in my 33rd weeks of my wonderful pregnancy.I am so grateful to Allah for the nice experience and not so much sickness.

Since it is about 5 weeks more to go to reach the 'matured' pregnancy state; the 37th completed weeks, Hubby and I both start thinking on what are needed for the baby.

Alhamdulillah, from the scan it shows that we going to have another mujahid! alhamdulillah..I start to imagine that both my boys are close to each other, independent and be good muslims, InsyaAllah!

We also do not have to buy a lot of things except few new clothes and few breast feeding gadget for this baby.

Breast feeding? Yes, we are planning to exclusively breastfeed this baby. It was unlucky for Umar last time because I could not exclusively breastfeed him for long as he went back to Malaysia 3 months earlier than me and I only had little knowledge on it even though I thought I know much on it.* sob..sob*
Ayah burping umar after the breastfeeding..


As we are thinking about breastfeeding, we actually plan to make a step towards natural parenting. We planned to be as natural as possible. We are now looking for several good offers on cloth diapers. Yes, 'cloth' sound likes old style but surprisingly it allow so much to save and good for the baby and the environment too.


From lunatots.com


I have read on this to learn more and to prepare for the coming baby. Some people may ask wont it cause so much work to keep changing the diaper and wont it cause rashes.

As for Umar, even he wore disposable diapers before (as I was so ignorant on natural parenting) we changed the diaper quite frequent to avoid rash and discomfort. So I think no much different for CD.
Got the idea from my reading in Pa&Ma Magazine

Since I'll start working about 2months after the labour, I pray hard that I could practice natural parenting with strong support from dear husband! Biiznillah..

Mengenal hukum dalam Islam

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Now umar is watching CD on hukum-hukum Islam..it has been a long time since he last watched this CD..I bought it for a charity for 'anak yatim' here in Seremban. At first I was a bit reluctant to buy it but since it has Islamic value and seerah (Prophet Nuh) I hink why not give a try..

Just now we performed the Dhuha prayer together..Umar asked me:

umar: Umi solat ape ni?
ummi: Sunat Dhuha
umar: Oh..sunnah..kalau buat dapat pahala..
ummi: mana umar tahu?
ummar: mcm dalam cd tuh ckp..

Emm not bad..alhamdulillah he gains something from the cd..

When he saw the news on flood in East Malaysia, he said "Macam cerita nabi nuh je..banjir"

Then he will tell us more on what he remember from the CD..

It is not good to allow excessive tv/cd for our kids, but it may be beneficial for short duration and with ummi or ayah accompanying and explaining on what is on the show..

Choose a proper show with educational value! Wallahualam..

in love with motherhood

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When I review my blog,I realize that I've been posting up many entries on my beloved son umar. It is not my intention to sell our story or to show public what we did together, but instead just to share and as appreciation for him on his achievements.


I also hope it my offer some ideas and encourage mothers,especially young mothers to appreciate their time with little one and try our best to educate our little caliphs since they are very young. No matter how bsy we are, our children are our responsibility and the trust given by our God;the almighty Allah.

I myself is only a young and 'new' mother. Three years is not enough to learn everything about motherhood but the duration has taught me a lot . I mysellf still trying and some times encounter error to find the best, enjoyable and most effective method or system for my child. It is not easy and requires sacrifice and patience.

I admit that I have referred to many books related to parenting, child development and the medicine which I studied contributes a lot in this interesting and challenging journey. What I share and practice are from what I have learned from time to time.

Hope the points may benefit or spark the spirit of motherhood for our satisfaction in future. There's no wrong in trying to be the best mother for our children but the ultimate outcome is from Allah. So lets pray hard!

La Taghdab!

Ungkapan marah seumpama perkara biasa dalam kehidupan. Marah yg bersifat api dan syaitan juga bersifat api maka kesatuan keduanya begitu mudah. Jika diperhatikan kehidupan seharian kita banyak sebenarnya insiden-insiden yang membabitkan perasaan marah.

Jika kita teliti akhlaq rasulullah yang mulia, marah itu adalah sesuatu entiti yang tidak ada dalam kamus hidup baginda. Hinggakan akhlaq baginda yang mulia bisa membuat zaid memilih untuk bersama Rasulullah apabila keluarganya menawarkan untuk membeli Zaid (hamba pd waktu itu) dan membawanya bersama mereka. Zaid yang sememnagnya maklum akan kindahan akhlaq Rasulullah berkata " Demi Allah, aku melihat pada diri lelaki ini (Rasulullah) sesuatu yang menjadikan diriku tidak mungkin lebih memilih orang lain daripadanya. Aku melihatnya sebagai orang yang berbudi dan bersikap baik."

Kalau dibandingkan dengan peristiwa di mana pemimpin2 di dewan parlimen menggelarkan satu sama lain dengan nama-nama yang tidak baik menggambarkan ketidak matangan seorang pemimpin itu. Ternyata di sini komponen marah tidak dapat dikawal sehinggakan hawa nafsu menguasai pertuturan dan menggoyahkan kredibiliti mereka sendiri.

Rasulullah dalam rumahtangga baginda sendiri dengan Saidatina Khadijah tidak pernah kedengaran perkataan-perkataan yang kurang senang dan kemarahan yang membatasi sempadan iman dan akal fikiran. Semoga api kemarahn itu dibawah kawalan iman kita agar ia tidak merebak sehingga menjadi api yang marak dan bisa menghancurkan segala-galanya. (gambar boleh didapati dihttp://www.senikehidupan.com/)

backache

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hint for my baby's gender as above from my latest 31 weeks ultrasound

my friend one day asked "why pregnant lady walk like a toddler wearing diaper?" ..

if we noticed pregnant woman has a wide based gait/ walking style. Discomfort while walking is not the only issue faced by the preggie but discomfort during sleep and bending as well. This is because of two reasons.

1- the growing belly /uterus
2- the hormonal changes

As our baby grow, our abdominal muscle may weaken and changes our posture. It cause more 'burden' to the backbone hence cause the ache.

another cause is the hormonal changes. It causes the ligaments (the tissue connecting between bones) to become loose hence we feel discomfort and less stable while walking, changing position while sleeping or even lifting the leg during wudhu'.

I personally found that it is helpful to put a bolster or rolled blanket between legs during sleeping. sleep on my side. wear comfortable flat shoe. maintain straight posture rather than slumping forward as the belly grows. Relaxing massage before sleep (husband may help with this).

Just take it easy. This is a challenge to become a mother and prepare us for more challenging experience ahead. Bear in mind there will be reward from Allah and kifarah 'dosa'. So just be patience and enjoy the pregnancy experience!


Dream, and translate it into organized thoughts!

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Oh I'm inspired!! need to plan and prepare to realize these dreams!!

It comes when I am not totally on holiday..oh..Oh Allah please help me!

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim..will write on it after I get the first good outcome ..biiznillah!

p/s: this will take some times ok;) please make doa for us!