daya tarikan seorang isteri

Isteri...title ini ada kuasa utk mematangksn seseorg. Pernah seorg
penceramah mengataksn 'seseorg itu tidak akan matang selagi dia tidak
berumah tangga'.Saya setuju dgn hujahnya kerana saya sendiri rasa
perbezaannya. tarikan isteri memang byk.yg biasa dikupas, tentang
kecanrikan,sikap penyayang, layanan baik etc.

Satu komponen yg jarang dibincangkan ialah isteri yg 'bermatlamat and
she is working for it'!

Analogi seperti pekerja di syarikat..seorg pekerja biasa yg melakukan
rutin biasa punch in and punxh out tanpa target dlm kerjaya berbanding
seorang pekerja yg ada target dan dia nampak sungguh energetic utk
mencapainya...

Antara dua pekerja di atas mana yg lebih menarik?begitu juga
isteri...pasti yg mempunyai matlamat dlm hidup dan berusaha untuknya
lebih menarik;)

Matlamat apa?apa-apa saja yg anda ingin dlm hidup..matlamat utk
anak2,utk keluarga,agama,kerjaya dan sebagainya...

Mari bayangkan target dan matlamat sebagai ibu dan isteri.tuliskan dgn
jelas lihat hari-hari. Org yg dpt bygkan dgn jelas satu persatu utk
mencapai matlamatnya lebih mudah utk nencapai impiannya;)

For the rest of my life..

Excuse me for being a little 'jiwang' here..just to appreciate the "nikmat perkahwinan yang Allah kurniakan"...

At this moment of waiting our second miracles to be born..I feel touch with this song from dearest mr husband..He is the kind whom always keep his feeling to himself..so when he dedicated this song it really touches me..


Thanks hubby for the song...

For The Rest Of my Life
I praise Allah for sending me you my love
You found your home and sail with me
And I`m here with you
Now let me let you know
You`ve opened my heart
I was always thinking that love was wrong
But everything was changed when you came along
OOOOO
And there is a couple words I want to say
Chorus:
For the rest of my life
I`ll be with you
I`ll stay by your side honest and true
Till the end of my time
I`ll be loving you...loving you
For the rest of my life
Thru days and night
I`ll thank Allah for open my eyes
Now and forever I…I`ll be there for you

I know it deep in my heart
I feel so blessed when I think of you
And I ask Allah to bless all we do
You`re my wife and my friend and my strength
And I pray we`re together in Jannah
Now I find myself so strong
Everything changed when you came along
OOOO
And theres a couple word I want to say
*Repeat Chorus
I know that deep in my heart now that you`re here
Infront of me I strongly feel love
And I have no doubt
And I`m singing loud that I`ll love you eternally

Repeat Chorus
I know that deep in my heart..


Some memories back in Australia..

4 years of blessings~ Alhamdulillah!

Sangat bersyukur kepada Allah atas nikmat pernikahan dan keluarga yang sangat berharga..berkati lah kami dan zuriat kami dan kurniakanlah kami kesudahan yang baik..

terima kasih buat suamiku Rizaidi Rohim atas kasih sayang, toleransi dan kebahagiaan selama ini..hanya Allah dapat membalasnya..doakan ikatan ini kekal selamanya dunia dan akhirat..
dan anak-anak kita menjadi insan-insan yang soleh dan musleh serta solehah dan muslehah yang hidup kerana Allah dan berjaya dunia dan akhirat!!


Our anniversary is a time to look back at the good times and a time to look ahead to live our dreams together.

exlopring nature with family!

I wanted to bring umar for a simple 'tracking' experience for so long but not sure where and when. Alhamdulillah last weekend, we went to visit umar's pak long in Kuantan and off we go to the waterfall. (umar call it 'waterjun' = waterfall+air terjun..hihi)

to reach the spot nearest to the waterfall we had to do some jungle tracking. Surprisingly Umar was so eager and enjoying the tracking so much. His cute mouth never stop asking me a lot of questions. I let him touch the trees, dried leaves or anything which is safe for him to let him explore as much as he could. We even came across a very big 'ulat gonggok' as big as my big toe.
Umar was so excited, he wanna touch it and of course I did not allow him.

Above was his photo with uncle haziq. I like the uniqueness of the photo, clear background with dark figures..heh





In the afternoon, we went to Teluk Chempedak and umar was busy playing with the sand while we observed him do what ever he wanted to with the sand. We only allowed him to play with dried sand coz I did not planned to change his cloth again after the tiring 'exploration' at the 'waterjun';)

with his pak su

in love with motherhood

When I review my blog,I realize that I've been posting up many entries on my beloved son umar. It is not my intention to sell our story or to show public what we did together, but instead just to share and as appreciation for him on his achievements.

I also hope it my offer some ideas and encourage mothers,especially young mothers to appreciate their time with little one and try our best to educate our little caliphs since they are very young. No matter how bsy we are, our children are our responsibility and the trust given by our God;the almighty Allah.

I myself is only a young and 'new' mother. Three years is not enough to learn everything about motherhood but the duration has taught me a lot . I mysellf still trying and some times encounter error to find the best, enjoyable and most effective method or system for my child. It is not easy and requires sacrifice and patience.

I admit that I have referred to many books related to parenting, child development and the medicine which I studied contributes a lot in this interesting and challenging journey. What I share and practice are from what I have learned from time to time.

Hope the points may benefit or spark the spirit of motherhood for our satisfaction in future. There's no wrong in trying to be the best mother for our children but the ultimate outcome is from Allah. So lets pray hard!

precious moment with ayah

ayah usually is a busy man..since we have the opportunity to be together in JB thus ayah took the opportunity to spend time and read with umar ..

umar enjoying the session and surprisingly he reads better with ayah..hehe

now, he demands for more books ..alhamdulillah!

communicate better with your child

we went to the nearby playground yesterday.we usually have an outdoor activity on wednesday morning either going to the park, library or buy groceries together..

not many kids around, and I've overheard this conversation between a mum and a kid while the kid navigate his kite. he is just about 5 years old.

mom: "tarik la tali tuh..kang jatuh..kalau xreti main xyah main"

son: *silent*

nowadays I've realized parents are more aware the importance of good communication with their children. The above scenario disappointing me. In my brain I was thinking

"why did you come to the playground on the first place?"

for me the answer is simple: to make my son happy and he can learns a lot of things indirectly.

But when a mother scold the child like that, it will be a bad experience or day for him or perhaps he would feel low confidence level as his own mother did not trust his capability..

poor child..

Please Allah, grants us patience to raise our children!

My son's pet

I never thought of keeping any pet at home until a friend gave me one. A siamese clean and adorable cat. She named him tommy.

I was at first hesitate to care for the cat because I was pregnant. A pregnant lady may have toxoplasmosis which may affect my unborn baby (the brain especially) and because my eldest son just 2 years 10months old. For a young kid like umar, I'm afraid if he get asthma or rhinitis (hubby has this) due to allergic to the cat fur.

Interestingly, hubby seems very interested to have the cat. I never thought that hubby like to have a pet at home as he is a detail person which I assume having a cat may compromise the cleanliness of our home sweet home.
and he has allergic rhinitis too (but not too bad).

Day by day..I fall in love with Tommy. I rarely touch tommy (but had little one way conversation with him) initially but day after day I was attracted to let him sit in my lap and sometime 'cuddle' him..

Then I realized that Tommy actually brings benefit to us.

For myself, I realized that touching and caring for tommy brings more peace within me. I sometime feel safe when Tommy is around. e.g. one night a stray cat got into our house at 2.30am from one of the open window downstairs. Because Tommy was around the cat fight with him and dismissed from our house..Tommy usually doesn't like other cat to mess around our house, which is good cause no more cat feces on my lawn grass.

Umar himself has shown his brotherhood to the cat. He called himself "abang umar' to the cat and really care for tommy as he is his younger brother. E.g. when he wanna sleep, he'll call tommy "come tommy to abang umar..we sleep together.." so cute:) This ease the transition to share ummi's and ayah's love with the baby soon and he starts to realize that it is fun to have a new playmate:) bravo umar!

today after about 3 months having tommy at home, umar has improved a lot.He cares more about the cat. first thing in the morning after seing me and hubby, he'll asked "where's tommy, umi?".

He'll run down stairs to feed tommy and when tommy show sign of thirst he'll put some water in tommy's container.I am proud of my son and glad that we have this cat.

for hubby, tommy make him less stress and more gentle..heheh..:) (he is a gentleman before now more gentle;) )

It is a wonder how a cat can change our life!! I've realized that I can used this to develop other aspect such as dicipline, responsibility in umar and as a medium to strentghen our parents child bonding ..alhamdulillah..

find a suitable pet for yourself..it is a new experience for us! Allah the Almighty who creates animals for human benefit!MasyaAllah..

career and family

Nowadays majority women working while parenting. It is also a growing trend for mothers to start working from home and it has been a good steps to improve the quality of the parents-child bonding.

I personally feels that working from home and be with your child 247 is a bonus and anyone with this previlage must be grateful.

I myself had decided to be in the working-mum line (for the time being;)), however I strongly believed that working mother may have the same quality and similar good outcome on their child if we know how to have a 'quality' time in each and every single day with our child even though we are working outside the house.

I have started my family at a very young age (according to the trend nowadays) at 22 years old and be a mother at 23 years old. At that time i was a 2nd year medical student who studying abroad far from my family.

Many people questioning my ability to cope with my study/career and family. I do not say that I successfully gone through this challenging pathway but after I complete my undergrad study I have realized some points that make me strong and help me to survive both my study and my family..Alhamdulillah..thanks to Allah!!

When I looked back, I realized some points that I would like to share which had help me and may help others to survive this difficult situation:

1) First and foremost:

always pray and depends on Allah on everything and always be grateful on what He has given us...we have more than others if we realized..have strong believe that what Allah decides for us is the best.

2) Set priorities:

it is impossible for your child and your career to both be in No 1 rank. Working mother must honestly make your own decision. This help you to realized and focus on what you are doing. Many people afraid to say that they put their child at no 1 rank as they think that they might fail their course..but it is a wrong perception. Instead it actually helps to avoid confusion in future. I personally think that parenthood make me a better person in life and my career. It tremendously help me to think and act differently and have a better perspective. Maybe some people think that I am slow in my career development but I personally think that this doesnt changed my career goals, only the timeframe to reach that goals. I strongly believe that putting my family first wont hurt my career in the long run.

2) time management

working mother must have strong determination to 'manage our time' and 'work for it!' It is undeniable that it is sometime troublesome but if we have proper time organization it will really help!

3) enough support from family / people around you

Our spouse play the most important role. He must be an understanding person of our situation and willing to offer help at anytime. It will be a bonus if parents or in laws and friends wish to help (alhamdulillah this is my case) because sometime you need extra hand if your work schedule need you to go outstation etc.

4) child care:

how to choose a suitable childcare?

Some people prefer childcare or maid. For me I prefer childcare. Childcare have two catogories 1) family based and 2) child center based...will be discuss in later topic.

Work and enjoy at the same time mothers!;)